I see it all too much in my private practice where clients are upset because people are trying with intent to cause harm. I too, have been a person that has been affected by people who try to cause you harm. I am always amazed that people really try to create harm with intent. My clients often ask, why do people cause harm with intent and what we can do to not let it affect us?
Great question! So why would people cause harm with intent? The first thought is these are emotionally insecure people. These type of people have low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure. In order to counter these feelings of insecurity they create situations in hopes to alleviate feelings of inadequacy.
Another reason is there could be a personality disorder which often create chaos and drama and the person creating it gets some sort of reward for it. They may need people to side with them so they can somehow feel a sense of security at the risk of harming others. Importantly, people who try to cause harm are people who suffer from being loved and lack of love for themselves. Truth is, they could just be bullies.
I cannot help but think, the biggest reasons people try to create harm with intent is their lack of spiritual self. To create harm with the pure intent of creating harm, really shows that there is no sense of spiritual self. The spiritual path is one of inner self-discovery. Its total focus is based upon one’s personal process of self-discovery and the search for greater meaning. The only requirement for spirituality is a willingness to commit oneself to total self-honesty and personal responsibility. People who cause harm with intent are people who are unable to take responsibility for their actions.
The question remains, how do we deal with people who cause harm with intent? Try to resist the urge to be defensive. This is what they want. They want to know they created harm and want you and others to become defensive. The solution would be just not to feel defensive. This alone defeats their harmful intent.
Try to count on your intuition. Our intuition is the GPS to our soul. So listen to what you souls GPS is saying. People who try to create a negative situation with intent are trying to create a whirl of emotions for others. Let your intuition guide you away from the situation and bless these people. They are showing their colors, which is often frightened and unaware of self-love rather they self-loath.
Do not to take it personally. These people are wanting to cause harm. It is their battle, and their inability to walk a path of peace. It has nothing to do with you. If others cannot love and accept you for who you are, send them love. They clearly are lacking that for themselves. Offer them kindness.
Finally, I have to say bless them. You may be angry, hurt, however, use this as an opportunity for spiritual growth. These people are in your life to teach you wonderful lessons. I once had a professor say, “Have no enemies, just allies.” Hold them close and realize these people are suffering. The real test is not what they do, it is what you do so walk the path of peace and move ahead of such people and be the peace.
Great question! So why would people cause harm with intent? The first thought is these are emotionally insecure people. These type of people have low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure. In order to counter these feelings of insecurity they create situations in hopes to alleviate feelings of inadequacy.
Another reason is there could be a personality disorder which often create chaos and drama and the person creating it gets some sort of reward for it. They may need people to side with them so they can somehow feel a sense of security at the risk of harming others. Importantly, people who try to cause harm are people who suffer from being loved and lack of love for themselves. Truth is, they could just be bullies.
I cannot help but think, the biggest reasons people try to create harm with intent is their lack of spiritual self. To create harm with the pure intent of creating harm, really shows that there is no sense of spiritual self. The spiritual path is one of inner self-discovery. Its total focus is based upon one’s personal process of self-discovery and the search for greater meaning. The only requirement for spirituality is a willingness to commit oneself to total self-honesty and personal responsibility. People who cause harm with intent are people who are unable to take responsibility for their actions.
The question remains, how do we deal with people who cause harm with intent? Try to resist the urge to be defensive. This is what they want. They want to know they created harm and want you and others to become defensive. The solution would be just not to feel defensive. This alone defeats their harmful intent.
Try to count on your intuition. Our intuition is the GPS to our soul. So listen to what you souls GPS is saying. People who try to create a negative situation with intent are trying to create a whirl of emotions for others. Let your intuition guide you away from the situation and bless these people. They are showing their colors, which is often frightened and unaware of self-love rather they self-loath.
Do not to take it personally. These people are wanting to cause harm. It is their battle, and their inability to walk a path of peace. It has nothing to do with you. If others cannot love and accept you for who you are, send them love. They clearly are lacking that for themselves. Offer them kindness.
Finally, I have to say bless them. You may be angry, hurt, however, use this as an opportunity for spiritual growth. These people are in your life to teach you wonderful lessons. I once had a professor say, “Have no enemies, just allies.” Hold them close and realize these people are suffering. The real test is not what they do, it is what you do so walk the path of peace and move ahead of such people and be the peace.
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